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Wednesday, November 30, 2022

November 2022

 November 2022

Christian and Sheri finished up their soccer seasons.  Neither was super thrilled with their team arrangements.  Both leagues had difficulty finding enough players in their age groups and so there was a large age spread for Christian. Sheri's team didn't have many teams to play.  Hopefully we can find some better leagues next season.  It was still fun to participate for the most part.






This month we started working on our greenhouse.  It was a fun family project.  Ultimately we haven't made much progress yet and the wind keeps blowing down the panels we work on.  We will have to get all the walls up around the same time or they will create a wind tunnel and blow off.  
The wind here is CRAZY!


Christian meanwhile helped fill our 55 gallon drum so that we are prepared with water should we lose power to our well.


The kids continue to do well in their classes and we are grateful for their diligence.




Callie has gotten into more than one fight with a particularly mean neighborhood cat.  When her wound gets infected I've had to take her in to the vet.  It's not fun for anyone!


Sheri continues to enjoy and thrive in band. She started flute lessons and is preparing for upcoming competitions.  She is improving very quickly with her great teacher and the knowledge she is gaining.



Eve continues to love college life and her cousins!




In mid November I was able to set up the Salvation Army Giving tree for our church building.  Partnering with such a caring organization is such a blessing!


Near the end of November we learned that Bart was going to have to have heart surgery and so we wouldn't be able to host Bart and Wendy for Thanksgiving.  We all fasted and prayed that the surgery would go well.  His surgery was Friday, Nov 18th.  All went well with his surgery, but during the night the medical staff were unable to stabilize his heart and he passed early Saturday morning, the 19th.  
We were all so sad to learn of his passing!  He is so loved by all of us and he will be greatly missed!

We all made quick arrangements to travel to Estes Park to be with Wendy and gather for the funeral as well as Thanksgiving.  It was quite a tender mercy to be able to gather when all the kids were on break so we could all be together!

Matt and Jeff arrived Saturday. The rest of us gathered in the next few days.
Here the cousins are playing rope games which were often a favorite with Grandpa Smith.


Here they are exercising to pass the time between games.  They used the song "Bring Sally Up, Bring Sally Down" for squats, pushups, and calf raises.  Needless to say there were some very sore kids the next few days.  Good times!




We played in the snow, played games, and went on hikes.




Wed, Nov 23








Thursday was Thanksgiving and we were so happy to be together!  
Here is the crew that participated in the Turkey Bowl while the rest of us finished making the feast.


The "Dome Home" was able to accommodate everyone for the meal.  (Some of the families stayed with a neighbor or at an Air BNB for sleeping since the family has grown so big.)







And of course, no Smith Thanksgiving is complete without an overabundance of pies.  I think the goal is to have at least one pie per person so that we can eat pie for days. :)  Thankfully, with 6 families within the larger group family there were many cooks to help the cause.


Friday, Nov 25th was the funeral for Bart.  It was great to be together for the preceding days to make preparations.
The funeral was such a special experience!  Such a time of gratitude for Bart and his influence in each of our lives.  He left a legacy of dedication to the gospel, his family, to learning, teaching, enjoying outdoor adventures with his family, and service.  He was truly loved by his posterity and respected by those that knew him.  Such wonderful remarks were given by his children, Grandpa Sabey, and the bishop of his ward.  




This is a copy of his eulogy which was delivered by Jeff:

"It is an honor to read the eulogy for my father, Barton Alan Smith.  This eulogy was written collectively by his wife Wendy, and their five children.  We are grateful for the time we have had together this week to remember and record important aspects of Dad’s life.  Of course it is impossible to capture his life in its fullness, but we wanted to share how Dad lived a life of learning, teaching, serving, and loving.

Dad’s love of learning began early, encouraged by his mother, Natalie, who was a teacher and his father, Kenneth, who was denied the opportunity of higher education but sought out learning throughout his life. Dad’s parents worked to make sure that Dad could get a higher education.


Dad believed education to be the solution to many societal ills and he pursued his own education with energy and dedication. He was an outstanding student and served as president of his high school’s National Honor Society.  Dad was blessed with wonderful mentors that encouraged and guided him in his studies.  He excelled in college at BYU, and was accepted into the nation’s most prestigious economics program at the University of Chicago, where he earned a PhD in Economics.

 

He began his career at the University of Houston and stayed there for 38 years, becoming an expert in his field, a sought out consultant, an innovative leader, a committed teacher and a beloved colleague. He served as Department Chair and as Director of the university’s Center for Public Policy.  He gained national and local recognition for his economic analyses, conducting two symposiums each year on Houston’s economy and real estate markets. In 1999, he established the Institute for Regional Forecasting and led the Institute until his retirement. This institute continues to provide Houston with business and economic expertise critical to the Houston business community.

 

Dad received the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Houston Business Journal, and was recognized for “being able to translate complicated academic research into language that is understood by the masses.”

 

In an interview with local media, Dad was asked what he enjoyed most about his career, and he responded without hesitation that he loved teaching. Since his passing, we have received notes from students who worked with him who described how they changed their major to economics after taking his classes.  Dad didn’t necessarily believe that economics was everything, but he saw economics in everything and helped his students catch that same vision.

 

Dad came to see the gospel of Jesus Christ in everything as well. While a young man, his parents had brief contact with missionaries of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. One evening during a winter blizzard, missionaries knocked on their door and Kenneth invited them in to allow them to warm up. The missionaries shared their beliefs. Natalie chose to continue to listen to their lessons and whenever Dad wasn’t at one of his high school sporting events he would listen as well. The missionaries invited Dad to play basketball with the young men at church. The friendship of these young men encouraged Dad to learn more about the gospel and he decided to be baptized into the church. 

 

As he was finishing up high school Dad, like many of the young men in his ward, was determined to get accepted to Brigham Young University.  His parents thought that he had applied to Oregon State, but he put all of his hope into BYU, and didn’t apply to any other university.  Luckily, or blessedly, he did get accepted to BYU and received a four-year scholarship, which helped his parents respect his decision to go to Utah for his education. Dad would go home to Oregon for the summers to work and he eventually earned enough money to serve a full-time mission for the church. He was assigned to serve in the Great Lakes Mission which included Michigan, Ohio, and Indiana. His mission blessed and influenced the rest of his life, and he continued serving in the Church in various callings.  He especially enjoyed working with the youth, serving as a young men’s president for many years.  One of the YM he worked with in Houston told us this week, “I will always remember the love and concern he showed to a bunch of rowdy teens, and he led by example in all that he did - a mighty man who truly had a humble heart.”  While living in Estes Park his love of teaching shone through while serving as Gospel Doctrine teacher and Elders Quorum president.  Dad loved to serve wherever he was needed.

 

BYU provided Dad with a strong gospel foundation, and prepared him very well for a successful academic career.  But he would be the first to note that the greatest blessing from his time at BYU was meeting Mom.  As a young man, he had decided he wanted a strong marriage and a happy family, and was committed to that goal above all others.

 

When Dad met Mom, he was smitten right away. He had heard her speak in a church sacrament meeting and was impressed. When his roommate needed someone to go home teaching at mom’s college dorm, he happily volunteered. It took him a couple months to get up the courage to ask her out. But they went on three dates in a row in January. Before the semester ended, they were engaged.  Dad had waited until he received word that he had been accepted to a paid position before asking Wendy to be his wife. He wanted to be sure he could support her well and he has ever since. They both went home to work for the summer, Dad in Oregon and Mom in Illinois. They wrote to each other with an occasional phone call. After 4 months of being apart, they saw each other only days before the wedding on September 9, 1968.  They stayed another year at BYU before heading to Chicago for Dad’s graduate school. They had been encouraged to wait a bit before having children, but after a General Conference talk that encouraged having children and not waiting, they decided to go ahead and grow their family. And Dad always said that was the best decision that they made.  Michael and Kelly were born in Chicago, and Jeff, Matthew, and Katherine were born in Houston.

 

Dad showed in word and deed that no other endeavor or accomplishment meant more to him than family. Most of what his children know about how to love, we learned from Dad. The last words he said to Mom, after telling her that he loved her, were “I want you to tell our children how much I love them.”  We always knew he loved us with all his heart.

 

As our family grew, so did his love, amd he welcomed each new spouse of his children with open arms. He loves Tara, Mar, Stacey, Beckie, and Rodolfo like his own (maybe even more), and his grandchildren filled his later years with joy.

 

Dad was also destined to love plants. He spent summers with his grandpa Neer who was a botany teacher and loved creating flower gardens. Dad’s mom Natalie enjoyed the blessings of fruit and vegetables from her garden. His kids remember many Saturdays spent as a family pulling weeds and working in the yard.  The hardest thing for him towards the end of his life was to feel so exhausted that he couldn’t get out to take care of his plants. Perhaps one of Dad’s greatest memorials will be the beautiful flowers and forest of trees that now surround the dome home in Estes Park.

 

Out of necessity when traveling to visit family across country, Dad and Mom would camp along the way. This tradition of camping  and Dad’s love for the outdoors continued throughout his life as his family grew. Dad loved to plan trips to get to know the many beauties of this earth. These long road trips created time to really bond as a family.  Sometimes frustrations with the kids bickering and annoying each other, got the best of - or worst of - Dad.  But we learned to be patient with each other. Sitting around a campfire always seemed the perfect way to bask in our love for each other.

 

Dad had a wonderful knack for making simple objects magically fun.  He would grab a set of sticks from the forest, wave them around in the air or use them to draw nonsense in the dirt, creating a favorite fireside entertainment for his kids.  The number of games that Dad could make up with a simple 15 foot piece of rope seemed endless.  His games often stretched physical agility and tested wit.  On a rainy camping trip, a wet tent that needed to be dried in a hurry could be seen parachuting up and down the campground roads, having inevitably ended up becoming a game.  Regardless of the game, no one could resist smiling and chuckling at Dad for his hoots and hollers that he’d make as he expressed his intensity during the heat of the competition.

 

We couldn’t end Dad’s eulogy without mentioning his love of sailing. In a way sailing brought learning, teaching, and family all together for Dad. When he decided he wanted to learn how to sail, he put the same passion into reading and studying, taking a sailing course, and preparing to captain his own yacht.  He taught his kids how to sail through example, practice, and trust. Many of our favorite family vacations came to revolve around a sailing trip - in the San Juan Islands, Alaska, Greece, Turkey, the Virgin Islands, and British Columbia.

 

Barton Smith will be missed for the many contributions he made to community, church, and family.  His life of learning and teaching, serving and loving, has touched many.  We’re grateful and happy to know that he now continues to learn and teach at a whole new level.  We know he continues to serve.  And his love, for which we are all so grateful, endures forever.


Pictured below (L-R-Sterling, Marcelino, Helaman)

Pictured below (L-R - Tonya & Ryan Smith, Matthew)

Pictured below (L-R -Carson, Helaman, Luke, Noah, Jonah, Sterling, Elijah, Parker)

Pictured below (L-R - Katherine, Matthew, Wendy, Kelly, Jefferson, Michael)


Pictured below (L-R - Katie & Rodolfo's family, Matt & Beckie's family, Kelly &Marcelino's family, Wendy, Jeff & Stacey's family, Mike & Taralie's family)


Pictured below clockwise (Sitting - Carson, Jonah, Ellie, Tyler, Eve, me-Beckie, Sheri, Taralie, Sabey)
(Standing - Adelaine, Sky, Mary Jane, Luke, Alan, Parker, Josh, Noah, Camille, Elijah, Ivy, Sterling, Helaman)

Pictured below (L-R- Christian and Erin Sabey, Wendy)


Pictured below (Matt and Spencer LaCouture)


Pictured below (L-R - Jonah, Elaine and Burns Sabey)


Pictured below (Katie Sabey & kids, Me)


Pictured below (L-R - Wendi & John Sabey, Hunter LaCouture)


Pictured below (Mark and Peter Sabey)


Pictured below (Wendy with David Sabey and daughter)


Pictured below (L-R - Pete Sabey, Adelaine, Mary Jane, Rodolfo, Katie, Marcie, & Alan Ramos)


Pictured below (L-R - Mel & Sandy Sabey, Christian & Erin Sabey, Chris & Maggie Christiansen, Mark Sabey (Background - Helaman Sanchez)

Pictured below (L-R - Leigh, Liam, daughter, Jim, and Oneida Sabey)

Pictured below (L-R - Luke, Marcelino, and Camille Sabey)


Pictured below (L-R - Ellie (& Jonah), Tyler, Eve, Me, Matt, Taralie, Sabey, Carson)



Pictured below (L-R Ryan & Tonya Smith, Martha Smith, Wendy Smith)


We are grateful for so many that were able to come and support our family!

Unfortunately, due to the holiday weekend the burial had to be scheduled for the following Monday when most of the family would already be gone.

The rest of the evening was spent enjoying our time together and remembering how blessed we are to be a family.  We love playing games together as did Bart. 


The kids have a fun time together!



On Saturday, Nov 26th, We headed down to Denver to enjoy some time with the Murrays before we headed back to Texas.  We decided to kick off the Christmas season by decorating gingerbread/graham cracker houses together.




Then we enjoyed dinner and games at Hannah's house.


The kids and I drove home on Sunday, the 27th and Matt stayed in Estes.  When we returned home we were greeted by a surprising amount of tumbleweeds.  We joked and even considered making a tumbleweed Christmas tree. :)


Monday was the burial.  Bart and Wendy had previously chosen and arranged for their plots which will be next to Grandpa and Grandma Sabey's.











I am so grateful that Wendy had Jeff, Matthew, her parents, and siblings to support her and each other.  I am sure this was one of many difficult moments we will have to pass through as we move forward without Bart physically with us.  We are eternally grateful for our understanding that families can be together forever and for Bart's influence in our lives!